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Stockham writes, "... Karezza signifies ' to express affection in both words and action ,' and while it fittingly denotes the union that is the outcome of deepest human affection, love's consummation, it is used technically throughout this work to designate a controlled sexual union.

" So that in practice, according to Stockham, it is more than just self-control, but mutual control where the penetrative partner helps the receptive partner and vice versa.

According to Stockham this is the key to overcoming many difficulties encountered in trying to control sexual expression on an individual basis.